This week, my husband Black Man Not Blogging (BMNB) brought me close, held me tight, looked deeply into my eyes, and, with profound sincerity, thanked me for all the home-cooked meals I've made during the last week and a half.
For BMNB, food is love.
Mind you, I don't get this. Never have, never will. I love food, and I like to eat well -- fresh ingredients, good flavors, and moderately healthy. I cook not necessarily because I love cooking, but because I like to eat good, affordable, moderately healthy food.
For BMNB, it's a whole 'nother story. For him, a home-cooked meal is an act of love, no less than a hug or a kiss. He loves food but hates to cook. (I don't get that, either.) He equates the act of feeding someone well with caring for them, and caring for them with loving them.
I don't know if this transitive equation really works, but I do know that after a week and a half of Chilaquiles Casserole, Jambalaya (made the old school way -- took me about 8 hours), Chicken Chili from scratch, Baked Sweet Potato Fries, Spanish Torta, Blueberry Buttermilk Pancakes (from scratch -- I hate boxed pancake mixes), Lemon Chicken, Dijon Mustard and Maple Syrup Grilled Salmon, Caramelized Cauliflower with Parsley/Capers/Raisin dressing, Sauteed Spinach, BBQ Pork Loin Marinated in Tequila and Coriander, Candied Carrots and homemade Sparkling Limeade, BMNB is a happy man.
So ladies, you don't have to throw out your back riding the stripper pole trying to please a man. Just start with a home-cooked meal. And if you can read, you can cook -- most of those recipes came from cookbooks. My recent fave cookbooks are Lucinda Scala Quinn's "Mad Hungry: Feeding Men and Boys" and Katie Brown's "Katie Brown Entertains," and my favorite old-school cookbooks include Julee Rosso and Sheila Lukins' "Silver Palate Cookbook" and any Frugal Gourmet Cookbook.
Ladies, take off that too-tight corset, put down your copy of "50 Shades of Grey" and your whip, and pick up a cookbook and a spatula. It's that easy to please a man. Really.
Happy Valentine's Day!
P.S. The Dijon Mustard and Maple Syrup Grilled Salmon is easy -- take two salmon fillets, marinate them in a marinade of equal parts dijon mustard and pure maple syrup -- not pancake syrup-- (about a quarter or a half cup of each) for at least an hour in the fridge, grill on a George Foreman grill with a sprinkling of salt and pepper 3-5 minutes or until done. Easy peasy!
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