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No Weapon Formed Against Ray Lewis Shall Prosper

No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD.

~ Isaiah 54:17 (KJV)

I wouldn't call myself a die-hard San Francisco 49ers fan, but I support any California NFL team that makes it to the Super Bowl.

That said, I don't think the 49ers are going to win the Super Bowl this year.  And it's not their fault.

This is Ray Lewis' year, and no weapon formed against him in the pursuit of his final Super Bowl ring will prosper.

I'm not a Ravens fan, either, but you don't have to be to feel the profound love and respect the Ravens have for Lewis.  My husband Black Man Not Blogging (BMNB) always says, "The team that wants it the most always wins."  The desire of the Ravens to bring home that Super Bowl ring for Lewis is palpable.  They've already named it and claimed it in Lewis'…

Yes I Can, Because I'm a Delta (Happy 100th Anniversary!)

One hundred years ago today, twenty-two women at Howard University had a vision for a sorority dedicated to public service and followed through on that vision.  That sorority is Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Incorporated, and I am a member.  And I am a better black woman because of it.

As many of my loyal readers know, I've been going through some things at work.  The other day, I came out of my office at the end of the day, walked down to my car where my husband was waiting, and told him, "I'm quitting."

"Really?", he responded.

"Yes, but not yet.  I'm not going until I have exactly the kind of job I want.  In the words of my nephew, I can 'thug it out' on this job until I get exactly what I want,  I pledged Delta; these people ain't got nothing on me."  I can rise above adversity and come out the better for it precisely because I'm a Delta.

I pledged Delta Sigma Theta -- and we don't even use the word "pledge" any…

Advice From a Mature Black Professional Woman to Younger Ones

I have a colleague from college, a black woman, who is extremely successful in her profession.  She has been an innovator in her field, and some of the most newsworthy successes in her profession are due to her.  After speaking to her a few months back after not having spoken for decades, we started catching up on each other's lives.  She said that if she could give one piece of advice to young black professional women, it would be this:

Plan for marriage and children as meticulously as you plan your career.

My colleague is approaching fifty and she's single with no children.  Mind you, she's not some tragic case wallowing in pity, but she just didn't envision that she wouldn't have married and had kids.  Like many women in our generation, she thought that if she just put her effort into her career, all the other things she wanted -- marriage, children -- would simply fall into place.  She thought the career part was the hardest part of one's life to get in ord…

Stop Bending Over (You're Going to Disappoint Some Folks)

"Cain't nobody ride your back if you don't bend over."

~ Black Man Not Blogging's Late Grandmother

Over the last couple of weeks, I've been working on a project for work that's been a doozie for a number of reasons.  First among them is the fact that, for whatever reason -- age, menopause fog, whatever -- I can't sit for hours on end behind a desk analyzing and digesting legal briefs and cases like I used to.  When I was in my twenties, I could read and make sense of this stuff for hours on end until I finished whatever I was working on -- a brief, a bench memo, whatever.  I'm at the point now that if I can read a decision or a legal brief for an hour straight, I've done well.  It simply takes me longer to do what I could have done faster in my twenties and thirties, and I don't know why. I think the second reason is that, at this stage in my life, I'm more interested in creating and building than analyzing and defending.  I'm tire…